In-person therapy in redlands
A thoughtful, human approach to change
Hi, I’m Emelly.
I’m glad you have the courage to keep trying.
You’ve made the courageous decision to go to therapy, maybe for the first time or for another round. You feel vulnerable. It’s getting harder and harder to stay hopeful that your life can change. After multiple attempts to create meaningful change in your life, nothing you’ve tried seems to stick. You feel like a failure.
If you’re feeling this way, you’re not alone — and it doesn’t mean you’re broken or beyond help. How I see people, and how I understand change, begins from a very different place.
How I see people:
Each person is unique, whole, and inherently worthy — with a soul and a story that deserve to be honored.
Even when life has been painful or disorienting, I believe something essential remains intact and alive at our core, waiting for the conditions that allow it to emerge again.
Many people I work with are searching for clarity about who they are, a sense of purpose or calling, or a life that feels meaningful and true. They are not broken — they are listening for themselves beneath the noise of expectations, responsibility, and survival.
When unresolved pain shows up, I don’t see failure.
I see a signal that something important is asking to be tended with care.
My Philosophy of Change
The Painful Disconnect
Many people learn to live from the outside in: responding to expectations, managing demands, and overriding what they feel in order to function. Over time, this can create a painful disconnect between who they are and how they live.
You Don’t Need to be “Fixed”
I believe growth and healing happen when the deeper Self — that carries truth, wisdom, and longing — feels safe enough to be heard. Life’s challenges can cause this inner voice to grow quiet or retreat, not because it disappears, but because it hasn’t had room to speak.
Self-honesty
Change happens when we create the conditions for honest listening — when the heart, mind, and nervous system are all included, and nothing essential is rushed past or ignored. In that kind of space, truth-telling becomes possible, and growth begins to move forward from the inside out.
Never truly finished
We are never truly finished becoming, but over time we can live with greater freedom, integrity, and presence as we continue the lifelong work of being human.
My Approach to Change
In therapy, I create a space that feels steady, respectful, and emotionally safe — a place where you can slow down enough to listen to yourself more clearly. My work is relational, trauma-informed, and intentional. We move forward with focus, but without force — staying attuned to what’s happening beneath the surface while remaining oriented toward meaningful change.
Together, we work to understand emotional reactions without shame or judgement, work with protective patterns rather than pushing against them, and strengthen self-trust to support how you respond to life and relationships.
This work is gentle, but it is also purposeful. It invites honesty, responsibility, and sustained attention — and it unfolds at a pace that supports real, lasting change.
If you’re looking for therapy that is thoughtful, grounded, and deeply human, you’ve come to the right place.
A note on meaning & faith
My faith is Christian, and my spiritual journey is an important part of how I understand healing, meaning, and human dignity. At the same time, I work with clients from a wide range of spiritual, religious, and non-religious backgrounds. I deeply respect each person’s beliefs, questions, and lived experience — including those who do not identify with any particular faith tradition.
I believe we all carry an inner life — a soul or Self — that is worthy of care, honesty, and respect. If you would like, spiritual themes can be thoughtfully integrated into therapy. If not, our work together remains grounded, relational, and fully attuned to what matters most to you — your story, values, and path are honored here.
Training & Professional Background
Couples Institute Developmental Model, including core training and continued participation in the Advanced Training Community
Couples Intensives Certification, supporting focused, immersive work with couples
EMDR Level I Training, for trauma processing and integration
Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) foundational training, grounded in attachment theory
IFS-Informed Therapy, including completion of the IFS Institute Online Circle Program and active participation in ongoing IFS learning and consultation communities
Somatic-informed approaches, integrating awareness of the body and nervous system into the therapeutic process
Licensure
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist providing in-person therapy in Redlands, California.
My work is informed by ongoing training in relational, trauma-informed, and depth-oriented approaches, with particular attention to attachment, nervous system regulation, and the inner emotional world.
I am committed to continued learning and consultation to support thoughtful, ethical, and effective work with individuals and couples.
License #114468
A place to be human
If you’re looking for therapy that honors your humanity and supports real, sustainable change, I’d welcome the chance to connect.